Based on Jeff Schoener’s classes since 2005, this wonderfully insightful book Patterns of Attraction© teaches how your relationship patterns were developed. Understand what draws you to specific types and why you’re repelled by others. Recognize why expectations hold you back and learn to streamline them in order to attract fulfilling relationships and gain the keys to happiness.
We go through our lives. We have hopes and dreams. We plan, some scimp and save. This is a part of our normal human existence. Then we get a wake up call. A doctor’s diagnosis, news of a close friend or relative passing; yesterday it was the earthquake in Haiti.
It is very human to hold on to things. We cherish photographs, remembering the feeling when we held our first child, all linked to memories of the past in the hopes of a better tomorrow. We may do this because there is a constant in our lives. This is true until the moment that the ground is pulled from beneath us.
These are the times to relax, to let go if for just a moment. These are the times to re-evaluate. Consider our own lives and how we interact with others. The present is a gift and there is no absolute guarantee of the gift tomorrow brings. For better or for worse, today take this moment. Let those who are important to you know they are loved. This is really the only lasting memento.
Because we get so involved with our own plans and desires that seem to drive our lives, it becomes even more important to reflect. Take a moment.
Our thoughts and prayers go out to the people of Haiti and to the brave first responders who bring them aid.
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An informational video interview where Jeff offers insights and applications and answers common and not-so-common questions.
By Jeff Schoener
From archived newsletter articles, January 2008
Through this past year, you, my loyal readers have read about what motivates us to maintain and build healthy habits and how to be resolute in your resolutions. For this moment, in this New Year, and all of the moments which follow, you have become aware of your internal dialogue and you have learned tips on how to adjust your attitude in order to help you to create a better life.
The American national year-end holiday season has come to a close. From Thanksgiving through the year end, I continue to reflect back, only to realize just how grateful I am. I count my blessings for what I have, for what I’ve accomplished and for what I’m about to accomplish.
I’ve worked with Parkinson’s and stroke support groups and I have become extremely excited about how people store and access memories, for the long and the short term. For some, how they support the very fiber of who they have become, for others, how they seem to hurt. Realizing how we act and react to these memories, as well as our thoughts surrounding them, determines who we may become as well as who we have already become.
My renewed sense of gratitude stems from an invitation that I accepted to speak at a senior assisted living facility. While they were all delightful, some of them failed to store what was newly in their short term memory. At first I thought they may have Alzheimer’s, or some other brain lesions, possibly due to a stroke. In many cases I soon realized it had far more to do with their own internal dialogue that kept them from making and storing memories. As I had them access memories from their past, I would subtly link the newer memories around the kinesthetics of their previous ones. Not to alter their previous memories, but to use them as a bookmark, so they could maintain far more of what we did that day. Bypassing their thoughts of their own physical limitations, I lead them to take control of their internal dialogues to the point where everyone was participating and having fun while also learning.
This is the subject of my new book titled ‘Just Before …©’ a memory enhancement guide book which facilitates an environment that will activate the audio, visual and emotional cortexes within yourself and anyone you interact with. This will also be a useful tool for rapid trance inductions and powerful state elicitations for anchoring.
Your memories are your personal and individual history. We may learn from the past, yet unless we access them completely, we will not be able to fully share them or even learn from them. In an entertaining format, we lead you through your own experiences while adding many aspects of newness to them. Through these techniques, you will be able to access memories from different areas of the brain. Using specific questions, you will be able to link memories through both long and short term for faster access and profound experience.
As for the seniors mentioned earlier, the magic in this was just how more alive they became. Now I ask you, what would it take for you to become more alive? What would you now notice? How would you feel? What might you hear, and when you look around, would you be looking into your past, present or future? Learn what motivates you and look into the future. Learn from your past and act in the present, beginning today, and every day in the years to come.
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While it is said, ‘Patience is a virtue’, directed thought and follow-through action changes worlds. -Jeff Schoener 
