Neuro Enhancement

By Natalie Schoener

Scenario: What happens when a celebrity role model gets exposed on a sexual indiscretion? The media gets all over it. Why? Is it because the public is so bent on role models maintaining their pristine image that we feel betrayed? Or perhaps it’s because we hope that the exposure forces them to maintain a moral sense of decency.  We first have to be aware of the fact that we hold double-standards when it comes to our perceived role models and who we aspire to emulate.

There are some whom we require to remain clean and untainted so much so that retail or political endorsers refrain or revoke public endorsements; and then there are others whom we revel so much in their indecency, vicariously experiencing their immorally decadent lifestyle that we actually support by investing a share of their unabashed promotions.

What’s the difference? Why hold one group to one standard and another group to another? Or do we? Is it possible, that parts of us are attracted to both, the virtuous and the darker sides? Yes it is, for we are both.

The Paradox:

Within all of us are aspirations, dreams and fantasies.  We are allowed and encouraged to do these. Yet we must also maintain a handle on reality vs. fantasy.  How do you know the difference? Often we find ourselves in a paradox of moral judgment and choices.  Some might ask, are we hypocritical if we engage or even mentally entertain both ends of the spectrum?  Can we find the balance within our own choices and reside somewhere in the middle?  What persona do you create when you are the star of your own fantasy? Which role model do you aspire to emulate in real-life?  What is your decision-making strategy?

Tailoring our lives and lifestyles, when it comes to emulating those whom we admire often takes us into a paradox of choices and decisions.  Whom do we admire most?  What and who are those that stir our passions most and inspire us? Sometimes they are the people in our lives but most often they are public figures and Hollywood celebrities.  Many times we seek to be like them without really thinking about or having an understanding of what their lives are really like or who they really are.  Ultimately, they are just people—some of them extraordinary, some with extraordinary skills and then there are those who may be less than, with extraordinary image consultants.

In reality, it is our uniqueness that we should be nurturing.  It is the individual potential whom you were meant to be that you should be emulating. Pursuing our dreams and achieving our goals take very specific decision-making.  When Jeff works with clients he always asks them, “What do you want?”  Many times they are stumped.  We often think we know exactly what we want, but when it comes to streamlining our wants we become lost in the shuffle of our wants and our needs.  When asked about the things they don’t want, clients are more readily able to define these.  So how do you streamline your wants, desires, dreams and goals with true specificity? When you are able to do this with clarity it becomes so much easier. When we act in sync with our wants and desires, and put our needs in perspective with greater clarity using all of our senses, we can create the life we dream of having.

While we are told that it takes time to do this—and it does, how soon would you like to achieve that mental clarity? Especially at times when we are torn between things we want to focus on and things we have to.  Sometimes our dreams get lost in the shuffle of perceived frivolity and necessity. If you need the skills and tools to achieve this, find an NLP® Trainer near you and learn them.  You will have the skills you need installed before your family, friends, therapist or bartender can begin to advise you.

Do this and experience for yourself!

By Joyce Hanin

Truly, that common phrase is not a cliché in this specific circumstance. When you get back to basics and take a look at what is actually driving your business (aside from the obvious you!), it is your staff. Yes, those people you see everyday, who see your vision (or at least are trying to), or who are looking for that vision which you are supposed to provide, so that they can succeed.

Unfortunately, in the world of sales (or anywhere else, for that matter), too often and sadly so, that vision is not forthcoming from the bosses or leaders. And those who may actually see that path to glorious success – the employees – are not even recognized for their perceptions, let alone their abilities to have them, or their efforts to make them happen.

So, in planting these initial seeds for a truly prosperous outcome, there are three critical ingredients in this recipe for success:

1)      Really take time to know your employees thinking – especially their strengths – and adapting or expanding these. Their past achievements are what affects how they view their job with you and how they are likely to perform with you and tackle any problems that may arise. Take heed if they have something to say, and how they say it. Expression through communication is your best guide to understanding what makes them tick.

2)      Allow your staff the freedom to do what they do best – after all, they are doing it for you. So sometimes at least, take ideas and thoughts from them. If they keep giving you ideas and suggestions that just aren’t feasible, then either they don’t understand their job, their role, or your vision. So re-explain it. Or, perhaps, you did not really understand them enough at the outset to make your hiring effective, or the use of their talents effective. It is not enough to know they are talented; learn to perceive how they put those talents and skills into motion.

3)      Compensate them for what they are worth. Nothing creates success more than recognition of someone who has been successful and who wants to be successful again – for you! Good pay means appreciation and creates an atmosphere of dedication to the job – the job they are doing for you.

So just like a garden, when you are sowing the seeds and you commit to ensuring your plant grows well, don’t renege on your commitment to your employees – or you won’t have any. And don’t just go by the gardening book either; add to it your own instincts – obey them because they come from the other most important element in success – your heart. Combine a good heart with belief in yourself, your product or your service and your employees (with those three important elements) and you cannot do anything else but SUCCEED.

Joyce Hanin is a Subscription Sales and Fundraising Consultant for the Arts who has earned her reputation in the Industry for her remarkable and unique training techniques.