If you missed it the first go-around, you can now join Jeff being interviewed by host Lillian Brummet of Conscious Discussions Internet Radio Show on the topic “Caregiving for Caregivers”.
If you missed it the first go-around, you can now join Jeff being interviewed by author Soul Dancer, of the book by the same title. Show topic: When YOU stop complaining YOU will start learning how to be paid what you are worth.
Modify your internal dialogue and Summer-ize your brain no matter what season you’re in.
In order to begin this process, ask yourself a self- probing question such as, “What keeps you stuck?”
Notice where and when you find yourself overwhelmed or distracted. In this way you will become far more aware of the sub-modalities and locations.
1) As you think to yourself, or say to yourself, notice the feelings. Is there heaviness or lightness? Is there a lack of focus? Or perhaps there is a heightened focus and you are missing what is peripheral. Do you notice emotions moving through you?
2) Become aware of what is internally being said or heard. Do you notice sounds? Are those sounds voices? If so, whose voices? What directions, relative to your person are those sounds coming from? In what direction are they going?
3) Once you are more aware of those sounds, begin to change them. If the sound is mono, change it to stereo. Notice how you feel. Is it better or worse? Continue through the modality list accompanying this newsletter.
4) Now notice that you may at any time change your internal dialogue and change your feelings for the better.
If your internal dialogue is too loud, soften it: If your internal dialogue is that of someone who should live outside of your head, change it. Remember, this is your brain and you may control it in any way that serves you best.
The most difficult question I ask is, ‘What do you want?” People will answer this question often without really knowing. While shifting perspectives are major parts of my teaching, until one understands the difference they cling to a particular singular point of view. It is generally from differing points of view that offer understanding of the distinctions in what we want or need. This awareness will effect any decision that influences course of your life. This is extremely true in the cases of finding a long term mate or your next failed romance.
A person who acts as a martyr is really a victim who through guilt appears heroic. This is dysfunction by design. -Jeff Schoener 
