“As humans, we feel a need to be a part of something. Through scouting, religion, clubs, sports, hobbies or crafts, few of us really want to stand alone. Privacy aside, our individual drive for companionship is at times overwhelming. Some soften this need with pets. Dogs and cats, while comforting, are poor substitutes for being with another person. What we long for and desire is a basic human connection. Nobody truly wants to be alone, at least not for long. Humans as social animals want to share anything from what we have accomplished today to the pain and frustration that life brings us. This need for companionship may be satisfied by merely sharing a simple meal with pleasant conversation. Many seek the safety of a small circle of friends. Others may engage in small-talk conversations with strangers or co-workers all to connect with another. Much of what I have described is superficial connection. This keeps us somewhat separated and some rarely delve deeper into aspects of true intimacy.
People go on dates, despite their dislike of having to put themselves “out there in the dating scene”. Some seek appropriate mates through the personals classifieds sections, dating services or electronic dating via the Internet. Others will even seek mail-order brides. Many even marry prison inmates where there is little hope of a conjugal visit and even less of a normal intimate loving relationship. A phone call or a love letter will be the extent of their connection. While we may laugh at a parody of this on Seinfeld, it reflects the real desperate levels we may sink to in order to be part of a couple. This is the perfect example of the tension between our human drive for companionship and intimacy fears.”
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When someone passes unexpectedly, the emotions we feel are surreal. It is then only in the fullness of time that we can put our loss into perspective and let them go. 